Being a leader

I have seen many people recently come out to speak on Gun Control, People calling them leaders of their generation. But sometimes I listen and realize that words can fall silent if you do not educate yourself on a subject, or if you do things like speak on gun control, but where the patch of Cuba a communist led nation on your shoulder. I have seen leaders come and go. I have seen people only taught to speak well but when the words come out of their mouths those words mean almost nothing because they are reading a speech written by someone uneducated about a subject.

If we look at people in books what it took to be a good leader was hard work and dedication to whatever profession they were in. They knew when to speak and when to walk away. They knew how to lead people in general. In order for them to be a great leader, they also needed to know how to be a mentor and teach those below them. They knew how to go about business and take that role and make people like and adore them.

We today need those sort of leaders, yet they are far and few between. We need a person who has the drive and the capabilities to make things happen while people will back those because they became educated on the subject before speaking. Sometimes though a leader can also be a quiet type. The type who takes control only when he or she needs to. I have watched so many times leaders speak and repeat the agenda everyone else is pushing. I have watched the verbatim repeat what the news and newspapers tell them day after day, like not an original thought exists in their heads.The reason their words fall silent is because we have heard those same words over and over again, and those words have been so embedded into our brains, that we repeat them like a computer.

We need to take people under our wings as authority figures, parents, and mentors and teach the younger generations what it takes to be a leader. I always hear my own son talk about what he does because his friends do it. I always try to tell him you be the leader, you set the example, but set a good example. I think we have all heard the go to if those words fall silent. If your friends jumped off a bridge would you? We have to look towards what our parents and grandparents went through and taught us. Choose the teacher you liked best and remember how he taught, because he made an impression as a leader. Take a little time each day to teach something new to someone. Make someone smile and laugh, but also know when it is time to be serious.

Growing up, and even as adults we learn from our mistakes and we try to correct even ourselves. We learn from watching what is going on in the world around us and we try to make this world a better place even if it is through a blog, or a Facebook or twitter post. We try to be positive although at times it can be tough when daily we see war, famine, protests, gun violence. We see all these negative things and we post over and over about them. Take for instance when the Florida School shooting took place, even until today about every other post is on that school shooting. although its over a month old now we are still posting the most negative things, and arguing with one another instead of sitting down and figuring out how to solve it.

Well one way to solve this spike in School shootings is quit giving the shooters  attention 24 hours a day 7 days a week. These people are typically narcissistic looking for attention. It is their way to get attention because someone at home or in school did not pay attention to them and they were outsiders and this is their way to fame. Notice since about 1998-99 after Columbine, the school shootings have increased. There is a simple answer why. Well actually 2 reasons i have. The increase in 24 hour a day news providers such as CNN, MSNBC, FOX NEWS and many more. The other reason being the increase in social media pages such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat. When Columbine happened it was the dawn of social media with AOL and AIM, YAHOO, and MySpace. So people now had outlets to get and gain national fame by what they did.

The other thing that bothers me is racial tension. It really does not matter if your White, Black , Asian, Hispanic, or Muslim. Whatever race or religious background you may have it is not a reason to hate one another. We need to stop, we need to look at the person next to you and think of them as equal to you. I always hear the media pushing race baiting. It is sickening because every article somehow almost pushes black against white, or Christianity vs the nation of Islam. STOP!!!! We are all one people, one nation, one world and it is time to come together as such. Quit letting the media mold you. Quit letting social media mold you. You are individuals with your own thoughts and emotions. But before you speak make sure you get educated on the subject you are speaking on. Look up statistics, look up history of whatever your subject you are speaking on. Make sure you make valid points and just not spew the same stuff the media spews over and over again. Become a leader, a mentor, and a teacher to a younger generation. Teach them and make sure they are the leaders of tomorrow who will be our change.

Well hopefully this made sense and you were able to follow along a bit and heed some of what I said. You do not have to agree, you can debate me, but part of debating is staying away from the name calling I see everyday on Facebook and other social media outlets. You do not have to name call in order to get a valid point point across. Thank you for listening or reading my rants and raves…

 

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Facebook, A buffet of love or cheaters.

Sometimes I sit and think on social media and how it has taken over our lives. I also do some of my best writing at 1:30 in the morning. Everyday we cannot look left, right, up, or down without seeing someone with their nose buried in their phone, tablet, laptop whatever electronic devices you and I all have. We ignore whats going on around us to entertain ourselves with what is going on in everybody’s lives accept for our own lives.

We believe what the internet tells us and what those on the internet make us believe.We take for granted the word “LOVE” especially because of social media. We crave love so bad it does not matter what that person says or does, even if they are lying directly to their faces. Social Media, Facebook prime suspect number one. Does it create a buffet to choose from for love? or does it create a buffet for cheaters?

I’ve seen people after two days use the word “LOVE”. Oh they are so in love after spending a few hours on Facebook chatting and maybe a few hours talking on the phone. That is called Lust, and well desperation for regular human interaction, because you need to believe so bad someone loves you after only a few hours. We never take a step back anymore and ask ourselves, Is this relationship good for me?, what do they have to offer? Are they gonna be there for the good times and the bad?.

These things have made Facebook a buffet for Cheaters, and Lovers alike. Now the people who do not care about others feelings have an easy way in. They see a status how heartbroken someone is over an ex lets say. They come to their rescue sorry for the magic reference ta dah !!! With replies to statuses, like are you alright? do you need someone to talk to? I am so sorry this could happen to you, I am here for you, Usually as I notice its usually the same excuse the term thirsty men doing the same thing and on several women’s statuses. Over and over if the person is just having a bad day they can keep on insisting you talk to them, until finally one day you give in. This is a bad start already.

So finally they convince you to go out on a date, and 2 dates later the next week the man has her convinced shes in love. He will usually be the controlling, obsessed type who will post everyday on her wall if he sees any other guys giving her photos attention to say stuff, again like of there’s my sexy baby, or I love you so much baby. They do not give the lady the room and the space to sit back and think. Then a month later she catches him cheating, but he comes back with every excuse in the book. It has only happened once, I am not in love with her, I am still in love with you, and the all famous I will never, ever do it again “I PROMISE”.

Then a week later they are into your private lives, asking every-time you get on the phone, Who are you on the phone with, or if someone comments on your photos asking who the guy commenting is. They will say well it is not you, but their ex cheated on them so it makes them “INSECURE”. They are going to then probably in a few weeks become very accusatory, tell you that you never went to the store, that you were out cheating. When in all reality you might have been doing what I am doing right now, and that is writing a blog about how Facebook is a buffet for cheaters. Remember the accuser is usually the one cheating well in my experience about 99.9 percent of the time. They feel guilty about what they did so they run it off on you like your the one to blame for them cheating.

I have seen some Facebook or online dating work, but in my experience that seems like a fleeting thing. We want to be lovers by nature so we expect others want the same exact thing even if it means jumping off a bridge with them. We all want someone we can cozy up to and cuddle at night, or watch a good TV show. Someone we can go out with on Friday nights to dinner maybe shopping and a movie. Those are the types of that us as humans and those with actual regular emotions expect and want. Typical human desire makes us crave intimacy even if it means settling for someone less than we all deserve.

Do not Settle from now on. I worked for a company that had a 4 second rule to safety it was take 4 seconds before you do anything in the factory scan your enviroment make an assesment and than proceed with caution still. Maybe Love should have a 4 month rule the rule of no jumping into the I love yous right away, or no moving in with them after only 2 weeks. We will call it the 4 months til I love you rule. That way you can really know if the person is about you or just getting well in your pants for lack of better words. And for God sakes do not propose to the person after a few days… Thats when you really know things are bound to fail.

Anyways those were just a few thoughts before I hit the sack here and sleep. Hopefully you all have a great night if you agree share and follow my blog.

Thank you,

Brian